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thereddest-rose asked: Hey Lo! I need some advice. I've been talking to a potential Daddy on fetlife for awhile now but I knew he had been considering another baby girl before I came into the picture. He wants the two of us to meet up and get to know each other in hopes that maybe we'll lead to a poly family. I'm not interested in her that way though. She's much older than me and I don't believe I am the poly type. I want him to myself but I don't want to take her Daddy from her. What should I do?

Hi there TheReddest-Rose!

I think it’s important for you to consider looking beyond just -your- needs here. If this potential Daddy is non-monogamous, perhaps he’s not the right fit for you? I think it’s important to the success of a relationship that everyone is openly communicating and making sure they’re getting their needs met in some way. As far as the Daddy goes, I’d communicate with him about how you feel.

As for him wanting you to be in a relationship with the other baby girl, I dont think you should feel pressured into liking someone you’re not interested in. I went down that road before and i certainly learned my lesson. Sometimes we push ourselves to explore a relationship with someone because we are hoping it will help everyone else in the relationship, but we end up sacrificing ourselves and potentually hurting others in the process. If you don’t have a connection with someone like that, never ever feel pressured to force it.

I think you should truly think about this situation and whether or not you’re a good fit. Communicate your concerns and see what the others think as well. If it is not meant to be, that’s okay! Just be honest to yourself and what you need in a relationship and respect how others feel equally so.

Best of luck!

Lolita

peachie-milk asked: How do you find a Daddy? Did you find him online?I'm having really horrible luck and I'm sick of having all my little feelings all pent up. Please let me know your secret. xoxoxo 💕💕

Hi Peachie-Milk!

I met my Daddy through Fetlife.com which help connect me with my local BDSM community. I attended events in my area and met a ton of amazing people I know consider not only my friends, but my Kink Family!

I think Fetlife was a wonderful tool in helping me connect with others near me, most importantly, my Daddy!

Patience is important, hard, but necessary. Just keep your  chin up and your heart open for when you do meet your Daddy! Give Fetlife a shot and reach out to your local community!

Best of luck!

xoxo,

Lolita

Adjusting to a Poly home that is missing one… How do YOU do it?

As most of you might know, Hubs has recently left for deployment. I wont got into details of course, but it’s come to my attention that he will be gone (as in not living with us in San Diego) for over two years now.

This is a major change for our family.

Although I’ve been through deployments many times, this will be the longest time not living together by a LONG shot. I tend to be fairly strong when Hubs is gone. The only real struggle I will have to face is when the Minions start to feel him missing. When their hearts break, mine will break.

I know this is going to be a tough change, but I have to admit I’m feeling more strength than ever in our home. It feels as if the four of us left behind (me, Daddy, and the two Minions) have pulled together in the few short days he’s been gone. The house is quickly being deep cleaned and organized, a routine is setting in, and most of all, we are all getting closer to each other.

I’m moving back into the “LDR” phase with Hubs, and our relationship has found it footing (and just in time for him to leave too). So far, I’m feeling more positive than ever about his relocation and how the house will be running without him here. 

Do any of my Poly followers have one or more of their family LDR? How did you adjust to the distance? What are your struggles and how are you managing the change?

Looking forward to hearing from you!

xoxo,

Lolita

Anonymous asked: I love you/
Anonymous asked: Do you work for UPS? Because I would’ve sworn I saw you checking out my package

I’m a sucker for horrible pick-up lines (and Dad Jokes) so.. swoon!

hehe!

xoxo,

Lolita

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