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"My relationships are inspired by a liberal-humanistic sexually liberated viewpoint, which guides my extra-dyadic attachments. In layman’s terms, I am a poly equal opportunity fuck(er). ~ A-Lolitas-Life"
Meep! Thank you! I will certainly pass on the love to my family as well. Please write anytime!
Hi there and thank you so much for your kindness! I do have some in desk me followers and you are one of them! Thank you for the smile!
It’s actually a tab option on the top of my page!
I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed reading my FAQ! You’re just too sweet! It always means the world to me when my followers send me kindness. I hope you’re having a great day! Please write anytime!
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Hello there and thank you SO much for your submission. What a lovely freshly spanked pink bottom!! <3
Hope the sass was worth the pink ass *wink*
I will try to explain our “Poly-cule” (which is basically the layout of our poly family.
Vinnie, Hubs and Lolita are the primary triad. We all live together and have been a primary triad for almost three years! Hubs and Lolita have two Minions together who also live in our home with us. We then have a new secondary relationship, Hubs and Kat. She is only in a relationship with Hubs but she is a friend of the whole Triad and is part of our family. Finally, there are two non-sexual poly-love family members, (another) Kat and Teal. These are additional poly family members we view as VERY much part of our family although none of us are in a intimate or romantic relationship with them. (I call them my sisters).
I hope that helps better explain my immediate poly family!
Jealousy is one of those words I just do not associate to very well anymore. I know what burning hot jealousy feels like and it’s something from my past that I just do not experience anymore.
That is not to say we don’t sometimes feel a little… neglected or uncomfortable when something new happens that we haven’t quite dealt with together before.
For example, I did struggle a couple weeks back with some of the severe NRE (new relationship energy) that is buzzing in my home with Hubs’ secondary partner. Some of my time with Hubs was neglected as a oversight by Hubs because of how engolfed in his new relationship he is. I did not feel that “feeling” of jealousy, however my emotions were concerning as I was feeling as if I was being overlooked mistakenly by my partner’s blindness to a new relationship.
By communicating my conerns with him, we were able to address some of the things that were being neglected and overlooked because of his new relationship and worked together to try and find ways to make sure people were not being dismissed accidently.
Sometimes in polyamorous families, when someone new comes into the picture your partner can almost be blinded in their NRE. It’s not “okay” to allow that energy to dismiss previous obligations or your other relationships, but it’s okay to point those things out to your partner so they can be addressed.
We are a team. I am excited for new partners and our growing family. But we are ALL very very good about being open, honest, and transparent with each other through communication. That helps up avoid the negativity that jealousy can bring into our family.
I hope that was helpful!
I think it’s important to gather your thoughts and what you want to express to your boyfriend first, but then plan to have a sit down together so you can communicate your feelings and thoughts with him. It wouldn’t hurt to do some searching online of websites or sources that explain what Ageplay and being a Little is so that you can share them with him.
Work together with your partner to find a way to have your dynamic meeting everyone’s needs without anyone feeling super uncomfortable.
Do try and remember that this might not happen over night, sometimes it takes time to work with our partners to find what works and what does not. Just be open and encouraging about being honest and communicating concerns with each other.
Just take a deep breath and allow yourself a little time to get organized in your thoughts and what you want to discuss with your partner first. Patience and communication will get you both to a place where you find a dynamic that fits everyone’s needs.
Best of luck!